Rescued From Rejection

In life, we often experience things that we don’t understand. There seems to be no purpose for the pain we suffer, especially when referring to rejection. Rejection hurts. There is no pain like it, especially when it comes from someone that did (or should) love you. It pierces to the depths of the soul. Rejection can draw you to anger, depression, insecurity, low self-esteem and leave you feeling empty.

If you are reading this post, there’s a great chance that you’ve experienced the pain of rejection first hand. A friend who betrayed you. A boyfriend who left you for someone else. A parent who never wanted you. A woman who you thought you would marry who chose someone else instead of you. A job offer that fell through. A hope lost. You put yourself out there- invested your time and money- extended a hand of hope and love, only to be pierced by the sharp edge of an evil eye, a cold shoulder, or even worse, deafening silence.

Personal Example

When I graduated from ORU, I had high hopes and expectations for getting a great job in my field. I had a number of interviews lined up, even one for the day after graduation! I would prepare my resume, get my suit on, self-talk, pray and get in the car and do what I felt was a great job at the interview. In one particular case, I discovered an opening at a Christian advertising and marketing firm here in Dallas. After checking out the website and job description, I just KNEW this was the job for me! I went up to the office with all the confidence in the world, gave them my resume and told them that I was very interested in the position. Over the next few months, I made it through interview after interview and was even given the job and told to put in my two week’s notice at the current retail job I had. I was so excited and all of my retail co-workers were too as the countdown began to my new, dream job.

One day, about a week before my first day, the owner’s wife called me and told me that they had a financial meeting and wouldn’t be able to hire me after all. As tears welled up in my eyes, I thanked her for the opportunity and hung up the phone. The pain of rejection and disappointment flooded my heart. In the days and weeks to come, I humbled myself and asked for my old job back. I just couldn’t understand why I had to go through this situation. Why didn’t they want me in their company? Why did I do all of those interviews and put in my two week’s notice only to be told that I wasn’t hired after all? It was a rough season, but looking back, I know that God protected me from focusing my energy into a job that wasn’t in line with His plan and purpose for my life. In time, God opened a door for me to work from home as a social media manager, giving me the opportunity to bring in income, take care of my daughter, write and prepare for my purpose. His plan was much better than mine.

The Rejected Stone

Today, I want you to know that Jesus understands your pain. The Bible says that He is the stone that the builders rejected (Psalm 118:22). He came to earth and was rejected by His own people, even to the point of death, but chosen by God (see 1 Peter 2:4; Isaiah 53:3). He was betrayed by Judas, a disciple that walked with Him and was taught by Him. Every day, for thousands of years, the Father has been rejected by people that He loves and created for His glory. Year after year, members of the church close their doors to the work of the Holy Spirit and reject His ministry in order to accept fanfare and bright light shows. God is very familiar with the feeling of rejection, and wants you to know that you are accepted in His arms today. He loves you. He cares for you. He sent His only Son to die for you so that you could be accepted through grace, despite your faults and failures. Even when people reject you, He will be there for you and use the rejection you experienced to direct and protect you.

Protection in Disguise

You see, rejection can be a means of protection in disguise. It’s hidden beneath your pain and despair. Be glad that he or she rejected you. Thank God that the job you wanted didn’t come through. Rejoice when the school that you applied for sent you a rejection letter. Their rejection closed the door to your plan & opened the door to God’s plan. He knows what we need and can work through the pain of rejection to protect us from the deeper pain of being outside of His will.

Another thing to keep in mind is that some people are not rejecting you per se, they’re rejecting the God in you. The fragrance of Christ in your life is like a stench to them, causing them to turn away from you in disgust (see 2 Corinthians 2:15). In this case, count it all joy as well, and pray that God will bring that person to a true knowledge of who God is and stop rejecting His open arms of love.

So don’t view the rejection of man as the rejection of God. If you have accepted Jesus, He has not rejected you. God says in His word that He will never leave nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6, Hebrews 13:5). He has rescued you from rejection.

So my challenge to you today is not to reject God. Don’t reject His love. Don’t reject His correction. Receive His love. Accept His plan, even when it doesn’t make sense. Embrace His purpose for your life and walk boldly into your future.

You are not rejected. You are accepted.

But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9 NKJV).

Emonne Markland
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It’s A Matter of Time

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You’ve prayed. You’ve praised. You’ve sown seeds. You’ve kept the faith. You’ve stood on the promises in the Word. You know that God is able to answer your request, but you haven’t seen your harvest yet. I want to encourage … Continue reading

DTR: Define the Relationships

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At various seasons, we must take time to DTR: define the relationships in our lives. When God is taking you from one season to another, and from one level to another, not every person will go with you. In some … Continue reading

The Attractive Factor: What To Do While You’re Waiting For the One

You’re single. You know you want to get married but haven’t found “the one” yet. You trust that God has someone out there for you but have no idea where and when you’ll meet them. So, what do you do while you’re waiting? How can you make the most of your single life without feeling lonely and desperate for a relationship? Here are a few tips:

Seek God & His Kingdom

The best thing to do while you’re waiting is draw near to God and seek Him with all your heart. Think about it. This is the one time in your life where you have total freedom over your time! Get lost in His presence. Spend time in the word. Build your faith through listening to bible teachings via podcasts and other audio/video avenues. Learn to hear and heed the voice of God. Pour out your heart to Him and allow Him to restore you in every area so that you are whole, not waiting on someone to come and fulfill you. The best, most-fulfilling love comes only from God. Every other love relationship aside from Him is icing. He’s the cake.

Discover you

If you don’t know your purpose, dreams, goals and desires, now’s the time to find out! So often people go through middle school, high school, college and beyond jumping from one relationship to another and neglect to discover who they are by themselves. Don’t be afraid to be alone! Now is your opportunity to realize your dreams and goals and discover your purpose in life. Spend time by yourself. Don’t worry about going on dates all the time. Date you! Learn about your family history. Discover who you are and where you’re going. Write down your vision and keep a journal of what the Lord speaks to you. That way, when someone does come along, you can see if your purpose and vision lines up with theirs.

Become the spouse you want

Most singles, especially ladies, write out a list of all the things they want in a spouse. (Be honest ladies, you know you did!;) ) I want a husband that is tall, athletic, funny, smart, financially sound, loves God, protective, loyal, affectionate… And the list goes on. And on. And on. That’s a good thing to do, don’t get me wrong, but what about listing all the characteristics that YOU want to bring to the table? Marriage is about giving, so ask God to show you areas of growth and how you can become the spouse that your future spouse will need. You want to have a husband, ladies? Begin acting like a wife.

Maximize the moment

Like I mentioned earlier, this is the one time in life where you are able to do things according to your own time schedule, so carpe diem! Don’t allow the enemy to steal this precious time from you by keeping you focused on what you don’t have. You may not be in an awesome relationship with the man or woman of your dreams but don’t think of it as lost time! This season is a gift. I remember being single and wishing I was married. One day at a church event a lady spoke to me and said that I must spend as much time as I could with God because when I get married and become a mother I won’t have the same amount of time to devote to Him as I do now. That word was spoken to me 6 years ago, and let me tell you, now that I have crossed over into that season, I know that what she said is true. So maximize the moment! Commit to an area of service in your church! Travel! Write a book! Record a CD! Seek ways to give back to your community! Develop and achieve financial goals! Start a business! You don’t have to wait until you’re married to begin living your dreams and experiencing joy! It’s available NOW! I have a friend that’s in her late 20’s and isn’t married. She’s written a book, traveled the world through missions trips and more, speaks at conferences, produced a TV show, committed to leadership and service in her church, and the list goes on! She’s not waiting for a man to come into her life for her to start enjoying it! She understands that Jesus has a purpose for her single life and has maximized this moment in her life. You can too!

Walk in the Spirit

So let’s face it, you have the desire to be married but it hasn’t happened yet. Which means you have the desire to love and be intimate with someone, but now is not the time. Let me encourage you, you can remain pure in thoughts and actions if you walk by the Spirit (see Galatians 5:16). How can you stay pure? By living according to and being governed by God’s word (see Psalm 119:9). Not in your own strength and righteousness, because how many of you know that good intentions are a weak foundation to lean on? It takes extreme discipline to keep your desires under subjection! You want to do the right thing, and God understands that. Ask Him to help you during this season and He will. Even if you failed in the past, you can win in the future.

I heard Pastor Steven Furtick recall the scripture that says, “Without a vision, people cast off restraint” in reference to single life (see Prov. 29:18). If you don’t have a vision and hope for your future marriage, it’s easy to cast off restraint and start settling for whatever you can get in the moment. Don’t settle for cheap counterfeits when God has the real deal in store for you.

As you guard your heart (i.e. avoid love scenes, be selective about dating/friendships with the opposite sex, guard what you allow your eyes to see and ears to hear, avoid love songs, etc…), live according to the word, maximize the moment, seek God, become the spouse you want and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you, you will live a single life of true freedom.


So tell me, what are you doing while you’re waiting? How are you maximizing this time in your life? Feel free to share information about your church, business, organization, etc. and see how others are enjoying the single life!

Emonne Markland: Leave Your Beauty Mark

For more information on The Attractive Factor series, check out these posts:

The Attractive Factor: What Role Should Physical Attraction Play When Choosing A Spouse?

The Attractive Factor: A Bride for Isaac (Video)

The Attractive Factor: What Role Should Physical Attraction Play in Choosing a Spouse?

Selecting a spouse is one of the most important decisions that we can make in our lives. That one decision has a ripple effect, pouring into all areas of life: physical, mental and spiritual. Many different factors come into play when selecting a spouse, but what should be the top priorities? For many people, physical attraction is the number one factor, and sometimes even the deciding factor. But as believers, should our standards be the same? Should physical attraction be the top priority and deciding factor when selecting a spouse? I’ve asked this question of myself and others, and have searched the scriptures for biblical examples and answers to this poignant question. Here is what I believe to be an informed answer:

Let me begin by saying this: God would never create a spouse for you that you are not physically attracted to. So I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be attracted to your future spouse and allow a person’s looks to be considered when choosing a spouse. What I am saying is this:

The number one factor that should determine the selection of your spouse is the leading of the Holy Spirit. You want the hand-picked, number one, best fit, most compatible person based on who you truly are and where you are going.

You want someone who will outlast your temporary emotions and attractions and be by your side for the long run. My husband and I both have mentioned to each other that had it not been for the leading of the Holy Spirit, we would not have selected each other. In our case, my husband was considering another young lady while at school at ORU and the Holy Spirit told him to turn his focus away from the woman that he was pursuing and onto me. As he did this and continued to pray, the Lord spoke to him and revealed that I would be his wife. Although he had this revelation in his heart, he never tried to force the relationship to happen. He was cordial, kind, and always friendly to me. On a few occasions, he tried to begin a relationship with me, but because my eyes were so set on his outer appearance (glasses, plain clothes, etc.), I always declined. I never gave him the time of day until I got very sick and spent time on the phone with him while at home recovering from surgery. I finally began to see him with the eyes of my heart and discover how attractive he was as a person. Over the course of time, the Holy Spirit revealed to me that he was my husband and we later began to date, get engaged and then married. Our entire relationship was Spirit-led. I like to say that God arranged our marriage, and our attraction to God brought us together.

But God told Samuel, “Looks aren’t everything. Don’t be impressed with his looks and stature. I’ve already eliminated him. God judges persons differently than humans do. Men and women look at the face; God looks into the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 MSG

You see, we all know that person who is physically attractive but their heart is hideous, so pervasive that it spills out through the words they say and the actions they make. Many of us have been deceived by our attractions, and fallen prey to bad relationships based on what we thought we were attracted to. Blinded by the outward beauty, many of us have settled for less than God’s best. Singles, it’s so important to see as God sees regarding your future spouse. Physical attraction is important, yes, but looking at the heart of a person is even more important. I know that this is especially challenging for men, as they are visual by nature, but I encourage you, brothers, consider Sampson & David. They were mighty men of God, strong in many areas, but deceived by physical attraction and led into destruction as a result. Remember: “charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting…” (see Proverbs 31:30). Also, did you know that Proverbs 31 NEVER reverences the virtuous wife’s physical appearance?! I believe that is a huge indicator as to how God sees the role of “beauty” and physical attraction in the selection of a spouse.

Two important things you should consider and ask the Lord in prayer while preparing for and selecting a spouse are: “Who are You? and “Who am I?”. Until you develop an understanding of who God is and who you truly are, you will not know who or what you are really attracted to. (Read more here). For all you know, you could be basing your current attraction on something that you learned back in middle school and high school that is totally irrelevant to who you are now and who you are to become. I don’t have the exact quote, but Damon Thompson said it something like this: “Run your race (the calling/purpose that God has given you) and as you’re running, take a look around and see who’s running next to you.” I couldn’t agree more.

I have so much to say regarding this topic and will continue this talk in my next blog post, focusing on Genesis 24: A Bride for Isaac. I encourage you to take time this week to read this chapter and allow God to speak to your heart regarding this matter.

So tell me, what are your thoughts regarding the attractive factor? What role/priority should it play when selecting a spouse? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Emonne Markland

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I’m baaaaaack!…

I’m baaaaaack!

Get ready for fresh, new blogposts right here where it all began! Be on the lookout for a new domain name soon! -E

2013: Embracing a New Season

Hey everyone!

I hope you had a great NYE and are excited about 2013! I had a wonderful time with my family and close friend at the Watch Night NYE service at The Potter’s House here in Dallas. It was a powerful night of worship, praise and ministry to ring in the new year. For me, and I’m sure you feel this way also, a new year is not just a change of date on the calendar. It’s a new beginning. It’s a fresh start. It’s an opportunity to begin again, learning from the victories and failures of the prior year and become wiser, stronger and better.

This year, I am beginning a new season in my life as a new author. As I’m sure you’ve noticed, with the lack of recent blog posts, I have been quite busy the last few months preparing for today’s launch of my new book, Break Every Chain.

Last week, I had the joy of receiving my first hard copy of the book in the mail and was completely elated. (Hence, the picture below). :)


I’m so excited about this project and the new season that is emerging with the release of the book. Here are some of the changes that are coming soon, including a new home for the blog!

  • As of today, January 1st, BeautyMarked will move to my new website,, along with the release of Break Every Chain. When I first began Beauty Marked in 2011, formerly known as Beauty Marked Mom, the Lord clearly spoke to me about the importance of focusing the majority of my writing efforts on my book, as it was His will for me to begin to act upon the projects that He’d put on my heart. Writing here at BeautyMarked was a wonderful place for me to encourage and interact with other women, discuss important issues, and grow in my writing skills. I want to personally thank you for being a part of my journey here, and welcome you to join me at as we embark on a new year and new season together!
  • BeautyMarked’s facebook page will close as well and my new author page will be the primary facebook page to stay in touch with all blog posts, book news, giveaways and more. “Like” my new author page for a chance to win a personalized autographed copy of Break Every Chain!

I know that God is on the move in our lives and have such an excitement for this new year. I want to personally invite you to join me on my new journey for 2013. Let’s continue to encourage each other on social media and obtain all that God has for us in the new year!

See you at the new site!

Emonne Markland

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30 Days of Thanksgiving: Blessed

• 1/2 the world lives on less than $2/day
• 80% of the world has no roof, electricity or running water.
• Everything is God’s and you are a steward.


• As an American, I am blessed beyond my comprehension. While most people on earth are concerned about their next meal or fresh water, I am not. And chances are you’re not either.

Too often we focus on what we don’t have rather than what we do have. We allow our desires for the next high-tech device or trendy outfit overrule our ability to be thankful and content. Hey, I’m all for reaching forward and dreaming big, as long as we don’t forget to thank God for what He’s already done.

This is a big reason why I’m doing this 30 Days of Thanksgiving. To get you and I back to thanking God daily for His provision and blessings, many of which we can’t even see. And also to consider ways to be a blessing to others, which is what leave your beauty mark is all about!

So, what are you thankful for today? Have you been on a missions trip or lived in another country where you’ve seen extreme poverty as I mentioned earlier? Are you thankful for the basic blessings of life that we so often neglect to even acknowledge? Please share your thoughts!

Emonne Markland
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I’ve heard it said that friends are the family God allows you to choose. Oh, how I agree…

I have been blessed with friends that encourage me and allow me to be myself. Always uplifting, inspiring and walking by faith. Overcomers. Warriors in the army of the Lord, yet gentle and loving. Never talking about people, always planning and executing dreams to build God’s kingdom. Confident in who they are and never allowing the hurdles of life to deter them from their missions.

Today, I am thankful to run my race alongside these great women and leaders. My sisters in Christ. My friends.

Emonne Markland
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My First Book: Break Every Chain

Break Every Chain 3D Cover

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30 Days of Thanksgiving: MacbookPro.

All throughout college, I wanted a MacBook Pro to write and use for school. I remember seeing other students with sleek, high-tech laptops…while I had a chunky, loud Dell. (Sorry Dell…it is what it is. Lol.) I didn’t have an extra $1000 lying around, so I had to wait. I was tempted to make it happen in my own strength, but the doors kept closing in my face. About two years ago, my husband & I agreed it was time to make the investment and set a goal to get the Pro. We did our part to save, and God did His part to bless us along the way. On December 30, 2010, we paid cash for our Pro and had it just in time for the new year, which was our stretch goal! Today, I am able to use this computer to write and am so excited for what will come from these keys…

Thank you, Father, for this tool to encourage people and advance Your kingdom.

So I’d like to ask you, are you waiting on a desire of your heart? Are you trusting God along the way, or trying to make it happen in your own strength? Let me encourage you, God is able. It may not happen according to your time frame, but it will be right on time. There’s nothing wrong with running after your dreams and desires, but make sure you’re waiting while you’re running.

But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up [close to God] as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired. (Isaiah 40:31 AMP)

Wait on the Lord. Trust Him. Rest.

Emonne Markland
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All He Says I Am


30 Days of Thanksgiving: Day 9

Today, I am thankful for my identity in Christ. I’m not bound to my mistakes. I’m not defined by my past. I am who I am because He is who He is. I am in Him, and He is in me.

Take a moment to listen to this song and allow it to get in your heart.

You are not what you did.

You are not what happened to you.

You are ALL God says you are.

Emonne Markland
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Where is Your Trust?

“What sorrow awaits my rebellious children,” says the LORD. “You make plans that are contrary to mine. You make alliances not directed by my Spirit, thus piling up your sins. For without consulting me, you have gone down to Egypt for help. You have put your trust in Pharaoh’s protection. You have tried to hide in his shade. But by trusting Pharaoh, you will be humiliated, and by depending on him, you will be disgraced. For though his power extends to Zoan and his officials have arrived in Hanes, all who trust in him will be ashamed. He will not help you. Instead, he will disgrace you.” (Isaiah 30:1-5 NLT)

Beware of making your own plans without consulting God; trusting in the help of a leader instead of the right hand of the Lord.

Make God your strength.
Consult Him for your plans.
Seek His path.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. (Proverbs 3:5, 6 NLT)

Emonne Markland
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Free Pho


My business card was selected from a tasty Pho restaurant in my area so I received a free entree today! Chicken fried rice? Yum.


Thank you, God for this free meal today!

So, what are you thankful for tonight? Share your comment below!

Emonne Markland
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Unconditional, Christ-like love. This is what I experienced in a beautiful way today.

I arrived at the door of my church hoping for a miracle. Nothing life-changing, or so I thought.

The deal was, I wanted to attend the KAIROS freedom ministry conference and had no idea how I could make it. It’s 9-5. It’s Thursday and Friday. It’s adults only. So, as the wife of a working man and mother of a toddler…eh, it just wasn’t happening. But, I told the Lord a few months ago that I wanted to go and asked Him to make a way. I had since forgotten about my small request and was busy with life up until this week. At the last minute, God showed up and provided a way for me to go. The only problem was, it appeared that the conference was full and registration was closed. Still, I got dressed and ready for the conference, determined to just sit outside of the sanctuary and listen if need be.

So, as I walked in, I replayed the speech in my mind of how I would ask the volunteer to put me on a standby list for if any registrants didn’t show up so I could take their spot. When I arrived at the registration table, I gave my speech. I’ve experienced situations where you are reprimanded for things like this, so I braced myself for the worst. And then, love showed up.

The volunteer smiled and told me that it wasn’t a problem at all and pointed to a sign up sheet where I could register on the spot. She handed me my conference package, which included a beautiful conference workbook, Kleenex (you know it’s gonna be good when they hand out Kleenex in your package!) and a map to locate nearby restaurants for lunch.


Now, this may seem like no big deal to you. But to me, this was everything. It was as if God was expressing His love for me by welcoming me in even when I didn’t deserve it. Even when I was late in registering and didn’t know how it would all work out, He showed up in that small way. And that was just the beginning of a powerful day of freedom ministry and worship.

Thank you, God, for showing your love towards me in this small way. And thank you for doing the same for my friends that are reading today. You truly left Your beauty mark on my heart. And I am so thankful.

So, what are you thankful for this evening? How did God show up in your day today? Let me know and express you gratitude for His goodness in a post below! I look forward to sharing with you tomorrow of God’s goodness through the Beauty Marked 30 Days of Thanksgiving series!

Emonne Markland
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